Let it go

If I could give everyone one piece of advice, it would be to Let It Go!

This concept sounds so simple but it isn't. I don't mean to ignore what is happening. If you just ignored an issue, it would eventually come up with more emotion. What I mean is to process what is happening and then move on, let it go.

Lets start with this idea of processing. For example, lets say you get in a conflict or you get rejected by someone you care about, you need to allow yourself to experience whatever natural emotions are related to it. Allow yourself to be angry and allow yourself to experience sadness. It is okay to dwell on it for a day or two. You need to truly allow yourself to experience the emotion as it happens. Don't ignore what you are feeling. PROCESS, PROCESS, PROCESS.

Just recently I was angry about a few changes in my life. Changes that I didn't really expect. I dwelled on it for a few days and I allowed myself to be angry but then I realized, it's time to LET IT GO and start making the adjustments I need to make for a better future with the changes.

Let it go means to stop focusing on what has occurred but rather move forward. Consciously say to yourself, "I am going to let this go and move on."

Some caution to this concept though. When experiencing a death of a loved one, you need to allow yourself a little longer to grieve. You need to go through the normal emotions of grief such as denial, anger, sadness, acceptance, etc. You need to allow yourself to really experience each emotion. Try your best to not bottle up those emotions. Let yourself grieve. Soon after though, you need to enter back into your daily routine. Loss isn't as easy as day to day changes and problems. It takes time to deal with loss. Entering back into your normal routine will also allow you some distraction. The pain decreases with each passing day, I promise. But you will always miss your loved one.

Remember these 2 key concepts: Process your emotions and then LET IT GO.